Often when I encounter a perceived problem or disharmony in some situation I ruminate on what went wrong, or what should have happened instead. These ruminations can go on for days or sometimes weeks. Strangely, the idea that I can’t mentally fix the issue doesn’t occur to me unless I become present enough to just notice what’s going on. When I notice what’s going on, I notice the inner fight, the resistance, the unwillingness to accept.
Lately, I try to bring spaciousness to the disharmony. How? You might ask. Well, I think about the issue, I feel the associated feeling, and then I think about spaciousness and feel that. I tell myself, Okay, I notice there is discord here. But then I just release the need for things to be different. Spaciousness, or a kind of acceptance of sorts, does sometimes bring some change to the situation. Or at least just some relief within myself.